IN PRAISE OF THE STIFF UPPER LIP

IN PRAISE OF THE STIFF UPPER LIP

It has been interesting to watch the unfolding saga of Prince Harry versus the press (a battle you would think his personal history would tell him he was likely to lose.)

I am not someone who has a great deal of natural sympathy for the royal family. I recall as a child of perhaps 5 or 6 being marched with my school class, complete with flags which had been issued to us, and being made to stand for a very long time until a large car drove past with two ladies in it. The one on the far side waved (the Queen Mother). I thought (but had the wit not to say), we waited all that time for that?

However, who could not feel compassion for Harry as a 13 year old boy when in the full glare of publicity he suffered the tragic loss of his mother; the axe mark of which damage will remain on his psyche all his life.

Whenever Diana was mentioned, William’s face would remain quite impassive, whereas Harry would shimmer with unresolved grief. (This is not necessarily good for William of course.)

Harry appears to be a nice fellow. (Perhaps he is rather too much like his mother.) He is charming, kind, encouraging… There is much to be said in his favour. However, he is now more mature and you would expect him to be able to form a more detached view about the death of his mother. Clearly he has not achieved a reasonable conclusion. It is not the case that every photographer and/or pressman is a wicked person. Some sections of the Press did not behave well over the death of Diana, but she herself was not blameless. She was being driven at high speed by an (allegedly) drunk driver and she wore no seatbelt. She had been manipulative and had tried to use the press for her own agenda. She was attention seeking, and certainly did not appear to be ready to retire into private life and devote herself to her children. These would be painful facts for him to contemplate and no-one would expect the boy prince to grapple with them, but by now you would expect him to have arrived at a more balanced conclusion.

There is also the fact that the advice his wife gives him about how to deal with the British is liable to be wrong. Americans tend to assume that Britain is like a smaller, poorer version of themselves, whereas we are altogether different. The Americans genuinely admire their rich and famous; whereas our attitude is altogether more sceptical and ambivalent.

In deciding to sue the Press, I would imagine that Harry has chosen to ignore royal family and government advice to the contrary. There are two institutions (there may be more)whom it is inadvisable to take on. These are the Press and the Police. You will lose.

Harry does not seem to realise the vulnerability of his position. We live in perilous times and the most the royal family would seem able to expect ( if indeed it survives Prince Charles) is a pared down monarchy, where there is just the Head of State and the heirs acknowledged as ‘royal’. At the present time they have heirs and to spare for three generations. Harry is not necessary to them.

I wish Prince Harry, as an individual, well, and his wife and child.

It is not always in people’s best interests to let everything hang out and to reveal all your woes amd travails. Sometimes the stiff upper lip has much to recommend it.

a

About adhocannie
I am a good natured woman with a long memory and a swift tongue. I like loooking at things and thinking about them. Also food, clothes, travel, reading, sewing. I try to see the ridiculous in things, but sobriety of reflection keeps edgting in. I have husband, children, grandchildren, friends... I feel rich in things that matter. I am a happy exile. I like writing. I do not like talking about me (though I do.). You willl be much more interesting.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: