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LOVE IS ALL YOU NEED
I’ve been reflecting on the famous
verses about love in St Paul’s Letters to the Corinthians, (First);
Chapter 13. I’m quoting from the King James bible.
Charity
suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth
not itself; is not puffed up. Doth not behave itself unseemly,
seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth. Beareth all
things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
Charity never faileth. And now abideth faith, hope and charity,
these three: but the greatest of these is charity.
I
find it difficult to believe in the creed of any religion but the
above statement on charity (or love) I support in its entirety.
Love
is not portrayed as a simpering sentimentality, nor as an adoring
admirer. Love, he says, puts up with things for a long time; it’s
kind; it isn’t envious; it doesn’t promote itself and isn’t
arrogant. It doesn’t behave improperly; isn’t self interested; is
not easily angered. It does not contemplate wickedness. It is not
glad when grievous things happen to others and seeks the truth.
Love tolerates all things, believes all things; hopes for good
outcomes and endures. Love never fails. When all is said and
done, faith, hope and love still survive. But the greatest of
these is love.
So
love is demanding and difficult in subtle ways. It calls for high
standards of behaviour. It has to be modest and not self seeking.
It has to believe in the power of good and act accordingly. It has
to hope for a good outcome and go on having faith in this possibility
and behaving lovingly long past the point when lesser values would
have given up. Love never despairs.
This
is by no means easy.
When
I was in a French hospital last year,I received for 5 days double the
dose of a dangerous drug, as a result of which I suffered from
episodes of extremely violent uncontrollable jerking movements.
Eventually I passed out during one of these fits (I had never
previously fainted in my whole life) and woke up extremely distressed
and disoriented in a chaotic recovery ward. On this day I also
discovered about the double dose and declined to take it any further
(at that level) and as a result had only a couple more much milder
episodes. One of these however was on the day before I was due to
be discharged, and I did not wish to prejudice my departure, so I
endured this one on my own. It was comparatively mild and did not
last long. But again afterwards I was slightly disoriented. The
hospital was strangely quiet and apparently empty of people (or so it
appeared to me.) In addition the sun was setting and my room was
flooded with an extraordinary golden light. I felt like Reepicheep
at the end of the world. I began to wonder if this was the end and
whether the Angel of Death would arrive. My practical self, a down
to earth, logical, practical girl who never loses the place and never
panics (very unlike my emotional self) suggested that we should not
be so melodramatic and that this scenario was extremely unlikely, but
agreed that we should say our prayers and then wait quietly ad see
what happened. So we prayed for all our people, finishing with the
children and John. Then we sat, peacefully really, still bathed in
this glorious light, and waited. We were somewhat taken aback when
a firm tread sounded outside and the door was opened to admit a tall,
golden haired and handsome man whom we had not previously met. He
was not however the Angel of Death but a male nurse. He spoke only
French. I was at a very low ebb and complained, weeping, that I
had had only a very few twitching episodes in over 20 years and I was
afraid I would never recover. He asked me if I was married, had I
children and grandchildren. I said, yes, I did. Did they love me.
I said yes, they did. Then he said I was extremely fortunate, and
‘calmez-vous, Madame’; that I should remember those who loved me,
that I would recover to my ‘comme d’habitude’ and all would be well.
Then (presumably he came from somewhere near the northern border) he
gave me that salutation where the man bows his head and almost but
not quite clicks his heels, and so he departed from me. I never
learnt his name, but I will never forget him. He upheld all the
principles of love, and he commended me to do the same. I did, and
I have survived.
I
commend to you, gentle reader, the principles of love, for all that
they are not easy to follow. As we venture, hesitantly, into 2019, I
think we have great need of them.